Chino's family has been wonderfully accepting of me since we announced "oh by the way, we're married" and quite lovely to me since I have moved down here to Mexico. They treat me just like anybody else in the family with joking around silliness and they try their best to include me and talk to me when we are over visiting. Nothing ever bothered me about their attitude toward me till we became pregnant and the subject of buying baby things came up.
Little did I know but they assumed that since I'm white or American or something, that I would be wanting only brand new things for my baby. They thought I'd want everything from expensive stores or something, and my husband said they were having a hard time trying to figure out what to do for me because they assumed I would be so picky. Oh lordy they don't know me at all!
Chino and I haven't bought one thing new for the baby and we're just about done shopping. I'm so proud :P I went to crazy lengths to make sure everything is SAFE and up to code and has all of it's parts - there's no use being cheap if it's going to harm your baby - and we've saved a ton of cash.
Crib - In some lady's yard - $40 !
Bumpers and sheets - $4 thrift store
Stroller & car seat - Free from family member
Tons of clothes - Fleamarkets, garage sales, thrift stores - $?
Baby bath - $4 yard sale
Receiving blankets, shoes, bibs, ect. fleamarkets - $? cheap
Ect. You get it. The only thing I need now is one of those diaper genies and the medicines, bath-stuff, lotions and potions that babies need. I'm gonna buy all the lotions, potions, bath stuff and medicines new - I'm not crazy.
So see!?? I'm not a spoiled American brat, I'm pretty damn thrifty! Chino and I looked at a ton of different baby baths over a period of about 3 weeks before I found one that was nice enough AND cheap enough. I wasn't willing to pay over $4.00 !
Chino tried to tell them that we've not bought anything new but they can't seem to except it. I don't know what it is about me being a Gringa in this situation but they're being hard headed and I don't get it, and I don't deserve this. . . scrutiny or . . judgment? I don't know. I think it's making it harder for them because another girl in the family is also having her first baby (a month ahead of me) - but she's from HERE. Perhaps when they come to the house to see the baby's room they'll get it?
Ah well, my wallet is happy and that's something. They're still a great family, they just don't understand where I come from.