I've been thrashing around inside my head about some blog etiquette for about THREE MONTHS now and I'm still undecided so what the hell - I'm just going to ask you guys!!
I LOVE COMMENTS. What blogger doesn't right? Well some, but never mind that for now. Comments let me know that people "get me" or think I'm funny or agree with me or you know, hate me and want to steal my kidney's. Every time I see a new one I get all excited and inside my head start running around in circles like a dog does when it's really happy and decides to chase it's tail. It's a big deal ok?? ;D
But here's the thing. I read A LOT of blogs. I try and go and read everyone that comes to comment on my blog PLUS all of the people on my sidebar, some blogs that I'm "following" and even a few more that I've got saved in my "Favorites" because I'm too lazy to put them anywhere else. A LOT OF BLOGS. I love to read so it's not like it's a chore but the thing is - comments.
Three quarters of the time I can't think of anything intelligent or funny or .... anything that would be of USE to say in response to a persons post. I can really LOVE the post or think it's hilarious or wonderfully written ect. but still not be able to come up with anything that I feel is worthy of leaving in their comment box.
I feel like an ass if I say "Great Post!" or "Funny Post!" or "Sorry your Gramma Died" or anything else that's a general response. I feel like I need to show the person that I've read what they had to say, ingested it, understood it and somehow truly appreciated it through my comment. (But you know... when I GET a general response in MY comment box - I'm not offended, I'm just happy they took the time to say something - but I don't want to do that with every post I read, it'd get weird!)
And if I can't think of anything to say that I believe is worthy of that person or their post? I leave NOTHING!!! GAAHHHHHH!!!! That's even worse right?
What to do?? Put something down just so they know that I was there and read it and possibly insult the person by a lame form response? Or leave nothing and have them think I'm a one-sided blogger?
I JUST DON'T KNOW!
A couple of months ago I actually thought about announcing that if I have nothing of use to say but want people to know I was there that I would just leave an "X" or a sign or symbol or something in their comment box just so they would know that I read it. Then of course I slapped myself in the head a few times and came to my senses.
What to DO!?
Ellen!? I read all about your novel writing experience this past season and could never think of anything bright to say - but I read it!
On Mexican Time - I read your restaurant reviews and see the beautiful pictures of Cancun and drool all over your blog and got excited about soccer with you - but came up empty for something good to say - not because your posts aren't' great - but because I'm retarded!
I faithfully read both Leslie Limon blogs and she moves me and inspires me - yet I'm silent.
Wordy Bitch, Sparx, Mountain Mama, RITA even you! I love all of you great ladies and yet find myself a lurker!
Seriously, if you're in my sidebar I am reading what you have to say. I might have to check in after a week and go back and read a few posts to catch up but I'm there.
WHEN DID I BECOME A LURKER!!??
(Not that there's anything wrong with lurkers on my blog! I have sitemeter, I know you're there, what time you came, how many times, where you're from, what kind of computer you're on and the software you're using (why DOES sitemeter have to get all creepy like that??) and I'm just happy you're here! I'll never ask my lurkers to de-lurk if they don't feel the need!)
So? What would YOU do - or DO you do - or do you think is appropriate to do? I thought about commenting once in a while just to let the person know that I'm still reading them, but then they won't know that I read every post!
I think I'm just going to bang my head against the wall for a bit, perhaps that will help. OR - lol - you all could tell me what to do!