Wednesday, May 1, 2013


I know, you think I'm gone, another one bites the dust!   It's pretty much the truth but a new gringa in town said she had read my blog BEFORE we ever even met, and when we DID meet it was by chance.  Anyhoo she said that it helped her a lot and it really touched me and I remember that there are probably more new women and men like me coming here all the time. 

SO, if I'm not going to delete my blog (which would be like cutting off a HAND) I should at least update once in a while so that people still know I'm living here in Mexico and how things are doing. 

The past few years have been so crazy and I know the future will be as well, even more so perhaps, but I can at least UPDATE right??

My two year old and three year old are sleeping right now.  I can't believe I've had two children since moving here. 

I'm on holiday from my job right now, another Mexican holiday - there are so many! - to get me off of work that is becoming increasingly more difficult and detailed but supports my family and allows my children a good education. 

My husband has now finished a full school year cycle at the trade school and is quite the handy man.  We have a big ole sign out now that says he repairs washers, dryers, refrigerators, air conditioners, and mini-splits.  And lol, in small letters - blenders and their parts, where it all started for him.   In August he's going back to learn how to do more - car air-con and then maybe on to welding.  It's amazing how cheap the education is and yet how much it has changed his life here.  I feel so blessed!

I just got back from a 4 day stay in San Antonio.  I saved up and went with my boss to the International Reading Association conference.  I attended a gazillion conferences and learned so much I don't even know where to start.  I also enrolled myself this week in an online study in classroom management on Edumy.  I'm doing as much as I can to learn more about education so that I can keep up with my position AND provide a better education for the students I'm in charge of looking after.  Our School had 400 something my first year, 650 something my second and we're aiming for 800 this next August.  The place is growing like crazy and I had better be with it! 

My husband and I had finally come to an ugly head in our relationship a few months back.  I actually asked him to move out and he did.  I thought it was over between us, the stress of Mexico and two babies being to much for us to navigate, I thought we had destroyed our marriage but luckily was wrong.  I had a good friend at school talk me into at least TRYING marriage counseling even though I thought it was for nothing.  My husband JUMPED at the possibility of us working out and found us someone right away. 

So, we went to counseling separate for a while and then together.  The counselor was like magic and our marriage today is better than EVER!  I can't believe it some days how happy we are and how lucky I am to have had people around to help us through and navigate. 

On a note, if you're wondering I never planned to move back to the U.S.   I promised him that I would never take the babies back to the U.S. and leave him behind - how could I??  Unless he were harming them I really never would, I would stay here till they were grown, it's my home now.  

I still miss my family and a couple of close friends from back home but am lucky that my parents come to visit a couple times a year.  And I've made such good friends here that life is a good place to be. 

Yes, the lights still go out sometimes for a day or the water still shuts off for a half a day or day sometimes but it doesn't bother me anymore, it always comes back on.  I've learned to make an ugly peace with cockroaches (although I WILL NOT give up on killing as many as I can) and ziplocks are now my new best friend. 

OH!!  I've lost almost 50 pounds the past almost year now!!  That's new!  YEE HAWWW!!  I've been on the Atkins way of eating and love LOVE it.  I also joined a gym and have gigantic man biceps, it's true, but I look and feel great.  I've never been this small in my entire life and when I see pictures of myself on FB or anywhere else I still can't believe it's me.  I'd still like to lose another 20 pounds or so, depending on muscle gain, but I'm in no rush, the diet and exercise slowly chip away yet I don't starve and I don't go insane with the gym.  I actually ADORE lifting weights and do it for about 2 hours a night, 4 nights a week.  I've made new friends at the gym, it's right near my house and everyone is so friendly. 

My Spanish has come leaps and bounds over the years but I still suck donkey balls at conjugating verbs.  It'll get there though, I need more for my job and so it's become a priority. 

Alright, I hear a baby rustling around in her room.  If she's QUIET with the door closed that means something bad is going down ;) 

I'll catch up with you all soon, I'm still here and things are better than ever!  :)

- Gringa


Jane said...

Good to see you back online! I am so sad to hear that you and your hubby split! I enjoyed reading about all your shenanigans with him! So glad to hear that you two patched things up! Keep blogging and post some pics of your new bod! I need some inspiration!

Laura said...

I always get excited to see updates on your blog. You have a special way of telling it like it is. And it gives me inspiration for some day in the future when I might have to return to living in keep those updates coming!

Stephanie G said...
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Stephanie G said...

Glad you are back!! We are planning on moving to the border and I have tons of questions about border living!! Can I email you with all my questions? Pleassssseeeee.

Blogget Jones said...

Good to see you back, too!!! I'm trying to get better about posting, myself. I've been terrible. I keep hoping for something interesting to say, so we'll see. You, on the other hand, are always interesting! Keep it coming!

:o) BJ

Lauren said...

Glad to see you're doing well! :)

Gringa-n-Mexico said...

Hi gals!!! I didn't think anybody would even notice that I'd posted, ya'll make my day! :)

Stephanie, just find me on FB - Lindy Willson - and message me there, I'd be more than happy to help you.

Blogget - you know it's weird, I stopped blogging/reading blogs regularly when Daisy was born so I have a portrait of your life still in my head - that's three years old! Everything is probably completely different for you but I still have that old polaroid of your life in my head.

inestrozar said...

It is amazing to find that there are other people just like us, feeling the same exact things that we are feeling. Sometimes I feel so sorry for myself, we went through the whole separation thing too....I was tired of everything that was happening and that tied us together, the deportation and the unpleasant memories. That was a few years ago and I feel myself feeling some of those things again. Hence the need to search out other expats blogs :) glad I found yours!!!